Celebrity divorce and real life
I'm so sick of seeing celebrity marriages last about 35 seconds, then people getting in an uproar that it didn't last.
How can anyone possibly be shocked anymore?
Television and the media make whirlwind romances and quick, flashy weddings, and even quicker breakups, seem the norm. That you're supposed to fall into lust, tell everyone every little detail about your sex life, fight publicly, make up even more publicly, get engaged with a ring the size of my fist, have a "Wedding of a Lifetime" and then quickly divorce.
Twenty-somethings have been led to believe that they deserve attention, and lots of it. Do anything (or anyone) you can to get what you want, and then just do a complete 180 when you're done. Walk away. Don't over-think it.
But love, marriage, families are not like that. They are longer, messier, and require us to put other people ahead of ourselves quite a bit.
It's not about being able to adore someone through the commercial break now.
It's about still loving someone despite the fact that during commercial breaks he'll fart while changing the channel with the remote 478 times, then forget which channel you were watching and when you tell him which it is he'll insist he knows BUT HE DOESN'T so he keeps clicking and you're physically restraining yourself from snatching the remote out of his hand and just putting it back where you were before you miss too much of the plot because of his stubbornness.
Love and marriage is full of eye-rolling, flipping each other The Bird behind backs, and having commentary in your head about what your partner is doing right now that absolutely in no way should actually be shared with anyone, ever.
It is also full of knowing looks, laughter, and being understood better than you ever thought you could be.
We need more role models in the media of what it is to work at love, marriage and parenthood. That it takes time, attention and effort.
Stop making it all look so happenstance. Sure, you might serendipitously meet and fall in love at first sight. But once you're sharing a bathroom, some of that gloss is going to be steamed right off. You need to make the decision to stay and play fair.
I'm ready for the reality TV shows of long-term couples that prove that they are deliberately making it work and it is absolutely worth it.
Because for those of us non-celebrities who have made the efforts behind closed doors for years, and get to have all the different kinds of good that come from long term relationships? We have it better than anything a red rose ceremony or televised nuptials on a yacht could ever offer.