Never mind the DON'Ts of fashion
Too thin or too big? Check. Wearing prints not suitable for your frame? Check. Body too natural? Check. Self-esteem properly lowered? Check.
You know what? Let us un-check all of those!
Why should we allow our worth to be defined by standards that we don`t necessarily subscribe too? The pain that comes from trying to change oneself and one's body to fit an external norm is considerable. We are all on a voyage of self-acceptance in life, whatever our shape, size and age. For me part of that voyage is about accepting myself as 'plus-sized' and loving and celebrating my curves. For others it might be dealing with comments about how "real" women have curves, disqualifying slender women from that category. Most people have body issues, and while fashion might be considered merely a superficial part of life, I maintain that it is not only that. Our personal fashion can be a reflection of how we feel about ourselves. Our personal fashion can become a measure of our worth. When fashion becomes all about the don`ts, it is anything but superficial.
Let me tell you; I am done adhering to the don`ts of fashion. Instead I am subscribing to the do`s:
Do wear anything you want to. Do embrace your self. Do ignore fashion advice that makes you feel bad. Do make up your own rules. Do feel free!
I have experimented with the do`s of fashion for a while now, and this is what I am happy to report back:
Horizontal stripes on my curvy body? Check! White frills on bottom and black on top? Check! Loud patterns in bold mixes? Check! Working knock-offs? Check! Body all natural? Check! Feeling good about myself? Check! Done hiding? Check! Dressing with a sense of humor about myself? Check! Defining my worth for myself and owning it? CHECK!
Fashion is about being creative, expressing our selves and loving ourselves. If the clothes don`t fit, then they will have to change, not me. Can I get an Amen?
Let`s love our selves and celebrate our selves, whatever our shape and age.
Let`s DO it!