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For better or worse
News comes in variation shapes and sizes. There's the good kind, like when the dress you've been dying for goes on sale. Or the bad kind when you realize no amount of pleading is going to reverse that exorbitant late fee on your credit card bill.
These are everyday news bytes. We all hear them. They alter our worlds for a few moments and then we move on.
But then there's the "Ohmygod" type of news which makes your heart drop and the adrenalin pump through your veins causing uncontrollable shakes and perhaps dizziness. When this OMG type is categorized as great, such as hearing that Meryl Streep has optioned your novel for her next movie (I wish) your recovery may take a while.
When it's a heart stopper in the opposite direction, well, getting life back to normal is directly proportionate to the degree of "horrible" which you've just been dealt.
Such was the situation I found myself in the other day after my husband's visit to the dentist.
Now, I've known for years that his teeth are not in good shape.
But when he looked at me and said so matter-of-factly that he needed to have five teeth pulled, I gasped, covering my own mouth.
Images of toothless old men, sitting on barstools, scrolled across my mind. And then without thinking I blurted out, "You've got to be kidding. They better not be in front because I'm not going to be married to man without any teeth!"
Of course, I didn't really mean those words. Well, maybe a little.
But then I remembered that vow we spoke so many years ago: "For better or worse."
And, to be honest, I'm not the same girl I was back then, either.
On a good day, my mustache is barely visible. "Flat as a board" no longer describes my stomach, more often my butt. And when I'm having one of my memory losses, I'm lucky if I remember how he takes his coffee.
"So, which teeth?" I asked, after recovering from my initial shock.
Turns out they are in the back and of course, he'll have them extracted and we'll go from there.
Last week we celebrated our thirty-fourth anniversary with a soft dinner and lots of saki. We talked about the tooth fairy and how she wasn't going to pay him a visit this time around.
But the good news is - we've lived through worse situations. We'll make it through this one.
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Fri Feb 1, 2013 - 9:15 am
Oh, I loved this!Reply -
1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Fri Feb 1, 2013 at 9:29 pm
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Fri Feb 1, 2013 - 8:14 am
I loved this one, Janie. You have such a gift for helping us see beyond the mundane challenges of day to day life and getting the big picture. Off to floss! :)Reply -
1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Fri Feb 1, 2013 at 9:28 pm
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Fri Feb 1, 2013 - 3:16 am
If I live long enough to see it I have to face the fact that one day I'll be married to some blue rinsed old Dorris and it is no exciting prospect - my only consolation is that I'll be able to reach her tits without having to get off the sofaReply -
1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Fri Feb 1, 2013 at 5:48 am
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Report Thu Jan 31, 2013 - 11:28 pmWow, Janie, five is a lot and I don't blame you about the toothless old man look. Perhaps, something will help and you'll share that tooReply
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1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Fri Feb 1, 2013 at 5:47 am
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Report Thu Jan 31, 2013 - 10:14 pmWow. What a surprise THAT must have been for him to hear. That's a lot of teeth, but as you said, they're in the back. It's not like he'll look like a 6-year-old with no front teeth. Good luck with the process. PattiReply
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1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 10:46 pm
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Report Thu Jan 31, 2013 - 9:30 pmHey look on the bright side, at least they weren't your teeth that needed to go! ; )Reply
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1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 9:56 pm
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Thu Jan 31, 2013 - 1:19 am
Hey Janie, Happy anniversary! I love this for too many reasons. This happened to Me last year, many complications and BS. Just give him drugs, lots and lots of drugs and yes we made it too! (so far)Reply -
1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 10:30 am
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Report Thu Jan 31, 2013 - 9:18 amFive teeth are a lot, but I guess it could have been worse...the dentist could have wanted them all! I'm with Linda O....Next year for your anniversary, get him a tooth implant, and the following year, same thing...and so on.Reply
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1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 9:39 am
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Report Wed Jan 30, 2013 - 11:49 pmGlad my husband's recent trip to the dentist only resulted in him needing one crown. Even in your husband's situation, Janie, it's good to remember that there are lots of alternatives today for tooth replacement--but not so many for husband replacement when you've been together so long!Reply
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1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 9:39 am
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Report Thu Jan 31, 2013 - 6:29 amTeeth are an easy fix. He'll have new teeth before you know it. And, make sure the tooth fairy leaves a nice big hunk of cash to pay for them.Reply
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1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 6:34 am
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Report Thu Jan 31, 2013 - 4:55 amYep, that's pretty awful - but of course it could be so much worse. You're a smart woman to remember the rest of the good things when confronted with sort of icky news. We all get old - we all have frailties. Better his teeth than his eyesight or his hearing, right?Reply
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1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 6:16 am
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Report Thu Jan 31, 2013 - 3:23 amLike you said, for better or worse... I hope that all will be well with your husband...Reply
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1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 6:15 am
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Report Wed Jan 30, 2013 - 11:28 pmJanie - Well I love your outlook. For Better or Worse. And you know, I bet your hubby is BETTER is a lot of other categories. Hugs on the dental work but Happy Anniversary anyway!!Reply
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1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 2:51 am
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Report Wed Jan 30, 2013 - 10:59 pmWhat crappy news. I hope his dentist prescribes a course of antibiotics prior to the extraction to prevent infection. I've been married for almost 33 years. My husband and I have changed over those years, but it's still hard to remember that we've BOTH changed when I'm looking at his newly sprouted nose hair. thanks for the reminder.Reply
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1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 2:48 am
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Report Wed Jan 30, 2013 - 10:41 pmAfter twenty-five years of marriage, I hear you. A few years ago, on a day I felt particularly frumpy and unattractive, my husband walked into the kitchen and said "How's my beautiful wife?" I looked around the room, thinking perhaps he'd become a poligamist and hadn't told me. But he meant me. A sign of true love and made me realize that's why they include those words in the vows. Great post!Reply
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1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 2:48 am
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Report Wed Jan 30, 2013 - 10:40 pmI always think of that Randy Travis song "I'm going to Love you Forever"...and it must be true!Reply
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1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 2:47 am
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Report Wed Jan 30, 2013 - 10:30 pmOh, poor hubby! I hope he recovers quickly and is smiling again in no time. (And I'll keep my fingers crossed on the Meryl Streep thing too). ;)Reply
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1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Wed Jan 30, 2013 at 10:33 pm
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Report Wed Jan 30, 2013 - 9:40 pmIt sounds like you two have a wonderful relationship--caring, honest and fun. No wonder you've made it 34 years. Happy anniversary to you both!Reply
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1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Wed Jan 30, 2013 at 10:30 pm
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Report Wed Jan 30, 2013 - 10:15 pmIn the greater scheme of things, this wasn't so bad, thank Goodness, but still, an adjustment. No one ever thinks of these things when they're young!Reply
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1 reply, Last reply by Janie Emaus on Wed Jan 30, 2013 at 10:29 pm
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