The secret diary of a new mum aged 43 1/2
How my life has changed over the last three years.
Gone - the well-paid job as a TV producer, the premieres and parties, the celebrity soirees. Life these days is a whirl of play dates, play doh and potty training.
But would I change a thing?
Not a chance.
Our longed-for little daughter has already brought me more joy than I could ever have imagined. And, rather unexpectedly, she has also brought me a whole new career.
It would be fair to say that I have pretty much fallen into being a writer by accident. Its very hard to combine the long and irregular hours of TV production with raising a young family and I felt the time had come to do something different.
I set off to try and get a job in publishing and ended up with a book deal instead. And so it is that three days a week our girl goes to nursery and mummy writes - not only the book but also a regular column in the JC as well as freelance work for a variety of clients.
These days it seems that older motherhood is never far from the headlines. And indeed I am a geriatric mum - a delightful if antiquated term referring to any woman giving birth at 35 plus. As you can imagine, I was truly charmed to be described in this way at my first antenatal appointment. And greatly flattered to be dubbed an elderly prim for the rest of my gestation
But I digress.
One of the reasons I was so keen to write my book (Secret Diary of A New Mum (Aged 43 )) is that I wanted to tell it as it really is, to look at why so many mums do seem to end up having their babies later in life. Can it be true that each and every one is a career crazed power freak (as the papers might suggest) or a minger who cant get a husband (overheard in a local park)?
The answer, of course, is absolutely not.
In fact there are 101 reasons why a woman might become an older mum and for the vast, vast majority its less about choice than circumstance.
I feel incredibly blessed to have got there in the end and I love being a mum more than any
words will ever be able to articulate. Im rather enjoying this writing thing too. (My favourite moment so far? Possibly receiving this review from a reader: I laughed so much I almost wet myself. Though I do have a urine infection)
As for my girl she might be too young to read the book for herself but she certainly knows all about it.
Look she cried the other day on spotting the distinctive cover. You wrote that book about me
I did, I tell her pulling her close. I wrote it because I love you more than
anything in the whole wide world.
Humph she says. You forgot the universe.
To buy Cari's brilliant debut novel just click here and you'll pop over to her page on Amazon.