We're judging the wrong mothers
The debate over which is the better mother: the stay-at-home mommy versus the working mommy, is a debate that's been going on for at least a hundred years.
Women are so quick to jump to conclusions about a parent's skill and value based on whether or not she is in or out of the home.
Personally, I couldn't care less.
I don't believe either of these affects a mother's role in the home, and I certainly don't think that a mother's presence in the home is a deciding factor as to whether or not she's a good mom.
I will not judge you if you stay at home with your children or if you work outside of the home.
I will, however, judge you, if I'm sitting beside you in the food court at the mall, and this is what I have to endure while I'm eating my lunch:
Mother: Are you done your lunch?
Four year old child does not respond, and proceeds to climb on table.
Mother: Are you done with your lunch? Because we have to go.
Child still does not respond, and now is sitting on his lunch.
Mother takes napkin and wipes ketchup from boy's butt.
Mother: Are you done with your lunch? Because you have to get a haircut.
Child looks at mother, removes her eyeglasses, and runs to put them in the recycling bins.
Mother catches child. Saves her eyeglasses. Brings boy back to the recently sat upon burger.
Mother: Are you done your with lunch? Because we have to go?
Child is now climbing mother like a play structure, and is attempting to perch upon her head.
Mother: Are you done with your lunch? Are you done with your lunch? Mommy's going to eat your lunch if you don't eat your lunch.
By this point, I wanted to scream, "For the love of all things scared, just eat his fucking lunch!"
So maybe this mother was just really hungry.
Or maybe she really didn't have a clue that she should have taken the lunch away from him before he had taken the lipstick from her purse and started drawing Betty Boop lips on himself.
Either way, if she was a stay-at-home mother or a working mom who was home for the day with her child, it's clear that she makes the whole "stay-at-home mom versus working mom" debate seem a little pointless...especially when you take into account that a perfectly good burger now had ass-prints in it.