Cuchi cuchi no no
I have multiple approach points to get my husband to do what I "want" him to do. I use that term loosely because otherwise I sound like Maleficent, The Married Psycho Whore, when I think we all have times when we "want" our significant others to do something we want, from hoping they'll change the oil in the car to getting us that necklace we're not-so-subtly hoping for. I haven't ever used punishment to get what I want, mostly because I'm a positive reinforcement kind of girl.
All of which is why I am absolutely aghast at what Josefina Vazquez Mota is doing in the Mexican elections. Stick with me here, this isn't a random segue. This one has legs.
Ms Mota has decided to reach out to the female voters. This is, of course, awesome and to be encouraged. The method of how she's done it, though, has women rapidly reaching for their bras and lighters with a frenetic-like hunger not seen since Spanx were released.
Ms Mota has asked the women to withhold "cuchi cuchi" - or sex - for a month if their husbands do not vote for her in the elections.
Let's just look at this. Sex in a marriage is an act between two people. It is - hopefully - an expression of love (or too much curry and wine; that's possible, too). It is always a choice, even if one is hitched. It is not an obligation.
And it's not an obligation outside of marriage. Choosing whom we want to have sex with came along with, oh, voting and the right to wear trousers and the pill and inheriting property and the right to just say no to coral lipstick. It's progress. It's getting to a point in society and relationships where we are equals.
It is also not a maneuvering point. Don't shag your husband if you don't want to. But don't take sex off the table as a pinch point, because that basically says "Hi, you sort of own me but if you don't do what I want you to then I'll fight back in the only way that I guess I know how, which is to slam shut the legs which were otherwise as open to you as the Drive Thru is."
Somewhere Eve has ribbed the proverbial rib out and is beating Adam with it (who arguably had it coming). I haven't a clue what the politicians running for President in Mexico stand for. By all means, women of Mexico - vote. Just don't vote with your crotch.