Do real men craft?
Estranged other half, Hagar the pilot is in touch with his emotional self at home but not at work. Some of my girlfriends actually refer to him as Big Gay Hagar, because of his burly stature but also penchant for creating mood boards prior to a room redecoration. It is he who buys the home decorating magazines, not me.
In the build up to his pending deployment we were talking about his accommodation and how it will be covered in pictures of scantily clad females. Now Hagar is pretty handy with a digital camera. In fact we have just opened a photographic art gallery together at t'chateau called PhArtHaus which is a collection of our photographs, or photographic art, or PhArt, over the years. (It's a joint business venture as we are saving up for our divorce! It's very expensive getting divorced you know.)
I suggested that instead of lewd pictures of naked girls that perhaps he could print off some of his fabulous landscape images that he has taken recently of the bountiful county of Wessex. Afghanistan in the summer is scorchio, dusty, dry and arid. I thought some images of lush green England with the glowing yellow of flowering fields of rape that adorn the hillsides would be a welcome sight in the pre-fab rattling air conditioned portacabin that will be his home throughout his deployment. He agreed but then had to work out if it was manly enough for his walls. Could he cope with the banter?
Today, in the gallery, I had a visitor. A mid 40's marketing
communications consultant who has just taken early redundancy to embark on his
mid-life crisis, or as he likes to spin it, his mid-life reflection. He was
talking about launching a business where men attended mid-life reflection
courses, where they created mood boards to share their emotions. It posed an
interesting question for me. Are men emotionally evolved enough where they
would actually be willing to sign up for such a course? One that taught
them how to express themselves through collage and texture? It made me think of
Glen's post Lord of the Gays and how this could well be the
road to gayitis.
Are only gay men allowed to be in touch with their emotional self or are we ready for the heterosexual man to explore his emotions? Are they even ready to come out and declare their feelings? I would be ready to listen if they were.